I Dare You
I would like to begin this blog post with an idea that I have mentioned in the past. It reads “You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day – unless you are too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” Seriously think about this proverb. And then I dare you to reach out to me and convince me that you do not have twenty minutes a day to calm your mind and “recharge.” You have kids who need your attention every second of the day? Your job is too demanding and after work, you just like to sit in front of the television until it’s time for bed? You are too busy focusing on your future because your suffering now is worth your comfort later? If you are going to try and convince me that you do not have twenty minutes a day to calm your mind with ideas like the aforementioned, then you can save your breath.
What Meditation is NOT
I apologize for sounding a bit harsh in that previous paragraph, but that is how I convinced myself that I needed to set aside a section of the day for self-compassion. Now, let me explain the fact that meditation does not have a set of rules that, if unfollowed, means you “meditated incorrectly.”
Meditation does not necessarily mean that you need to sit in a cross-legged position and chant “Oooommmm” for twenty minutes until you are able to levitate off the ground. Also, it is by no means a religious practice where you are praying to a deity.
Further, it is not something like a 15 Day Detox Diet where you expect immediate and drastic results. If you are seeking this sort of treatment, then you may need to speak to a professional.
Then What is Meditation?
Personally, I like to sit, either on a cushion or in a chair, and close my eyes to meditate. I try to take 10-15 minutes in the morning and 10-15 minutes before bed to close my eyes, find my breath, and settle my mind. But this is not the only way to meditate. If you are going for a walk and are being mindful of the sights, sounds, and smells as opposed to stressing about upcoming events, then you are meditating. If you are eating your meal without your eyes being glued to your phone or to the television, then you are meditating.
Many people may be turned off by the idea of meditation because they believe it is just sitting and chanting some random mantra. But being mindful is being meditative, and vice versa. If you do not have the time to do this for yourself then, in my own opinion, some re-evaluations need to occur in your life. Trust me, you are worth it.
There is a reason that the words “medication” and “meditation” are only off by one letter.
Please, stay mindful.